Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Not Goodbye, See Ya Soon

Military life is nomadic in nature.  Just when you get settled it's time for you, or your new BFF, to go.  Bonded quickly by struggle, boat schedules, children and common experiences it's not an easy thing to deal with.  However, this is a natural cycle all wrapped up in a pretty bow courtesy of Uncle Sam. 

Now unless someone is retiring in the Coast Guard, you are likely to meet them again. And let's be serious, that can be a good or bad thing.  There are some people that you are SUPER excited to get rid of but just like a bad penny, they or you will be back... especially if you lost the karma lottery.  haha Have fun with that one.  

This summer was my first round and experience with this kind of change.  Many friends that I have made have left and I'm struggling to find a balance between "It's gonna be ok" and "I should probably stop drinking to not feel feelings".  I'm just being honest.  Some of these people were my first CG friends, the first people who invited me into this little group called "wives" and have become my support system- some, without even knowing it.  I've told you before, I'm not a hugger and naturally feelings kind of go in the same box.  Don't get me wrong- I'll show you my behind after an awesomely epic fall down a mountain hiking, but bearing my heart & soul may not happen unless I was seriously loving a bevarge that night.  


We've shared the good, bad and drunky ugly!  Many inside jokes, nicknames, theme parties, cookie exchanges, family dinners, great pregnancy stories/tips (don't ask.), trips "out the road" and other amazing times have come out of the last two years.  I've had a lot of time to reflect and drink think on the subject and I believe I've come to terms with our friendship life cycle. 

As I try to contain my girly emotions eww and get through these last few thoughts, I want to take a rare pause... (look closely, this doesn't happen often) I want to say something truly from the heart.  Yes, I have one.  Shocker. 

I have become a better person for knowing each and everyone of you ladies. You have touched my heart and shared more of yourself than anyone ever has.  You made me feel at home in an instant and were always there no matter what.  You were my home, when my other home feels like it's a world away.  I will never forget any of you and hope you won't forget me.  I appreciate you beyond words and am so thankful that God put you in my life.  Thank you for everything.  This friendship life cycle is not easy, but nothing in this life is.  All you can do is smile, because it happened.

  Until we meet again...


  1. :( Im sad for you. Everything will be okay... "Just keep swimming" I hope you get to stay in touch with your friends.

  2. Oh man, I totally get this! Saying good-bye to friends -- whether you're leaving or they're the ones leaving -- is so difficult and painful! But I love that last image -- where we're thankful it even happened! :)